How to Convince Someone to Go to Rehab
You cannot force change, but you can make treatment easier to say yes to. Choose a calm, sober moment, speak about specific behaviours with care rather than blame, and offer one clear next step — such as a confidential call with our admissions team on 0706 466 150.
Last updated: 3 November 2026
When is the best time to talk?
- When they are sober, not drunk, high or hungover
- In private, not in front of children or visitors
- When you are calm and have time
- Soon after a problem caused by drinking or drug use, when it is fresh
What should I say?
Use 'I' statements: 'I was scared when you didn't come home on Friday' works better than 'You are a drunkard'. Describe what you have seen, say that you care, and say what you would like them to do.
What should I avoid?
- Shouting, insults or labels
- Lecturing for a long time
- Making threats you will not carry out
- Arguing with someone who is intoxicated
What if they say no?
A first 'no' is common. Stay calm, keep the door open and try again. Keep looking after yourself, stop covering up for the consequences of their use, and call us for advice on next steps.
What are the next steps?
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I involve other family members?
Often yes. A small group of people the person trusts can be more persuasive than one person alone. Our guide to planning a family intervention explains how.
How do I admit someone to Holding Hands?
Call 0706 466 150 or send a WhatsApp message. Our team does a free, confidential assessment, agrees a treatment plan and admission date with you, and explains what to bring. Our admissions team is available 24 hours a day.
Is treatment confidential?
Yes. Every enquiry, assessment and treatment record is kept confidential.